Wednesday, May 21, 2008

How To Take Responsibility For Life

You are completely responsible for your life. It is the guiding principle which you must embrace if you project for happiness and success in the life and work. I currently give lessons particular to a young woman, a director with a small company. I am struck, each time we meet, by her failure to take responsibility for what is happening in her work and life. Each problem is explained far with reasons approximately why it can’t affect the situation or the results.

The most important aspect of taking responsibility for your life is to acknowledge that your life is your responsibility. Nobody can live your life for you. You are responsible. Anyhow hard you try to blame others of the events of your life, each event is the result of the choices which you made and listen to the small voice in your head. And, observe you speak with colleagues, members of family, and friends. Do you intend yourselves to take the responsibility or to place the blame? The following are the three phases on how to take the responsibilities in life.
  • Listen to the voice in your head. Eliminate blame; eliminate excuses. If the blame track or the excuse track plays repeatedly in your mind, you are shifting responsibility for your decisions and life to others.
  • Second, listen to yourself when you speak. In your conversation, do you hear yourself blame others for things that don’t go exactly as you want? Do you find yourself pointing fingers at your coworkers or your upbringing, your parent’s influence, the amount of money that you make, or your spouse? Are you making excuses for goals unmet or tasks that missed their deadlines? If you can hear your blaming patterns, you can stop them.
  • Third, if an individual you respect supplies feedback that you make excuses and blame others for your woes, take the feedback seriously. Control your defensive reaction and explore examples and deepen your understanding with the coworker or friend. People who responsibly consider feedback attract much more feedback.

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